Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men: Lundy Bancroft: 9780425191651: Books - Amazon.ca


"One year my colleagues David and Carole were preparing a skit on abuse for a conference, and they decided to perform a rehearsal for their abuser group. Afterward, the group members rapid-fired their suggestions for improving the skit, directing them mostly at David: "No no, you don’t make excuses for why you’re home late, that puts you on the defensive, you’ve got to turn it around on her, tell her you know she’s cheating on you….. You’re staying too far away from her David. Take a couple steps toward her, so she’ll know you mean business…. You’re letting her say too much. You’ve got to cut her off and stick to your point." 

The counselors were struck by how aware the clients were of the kinds of tactics they use, and why they use them: In the excitement of giving feedback o the skit, the men let down their facade as “out-of-control abuser who doesn’t realize what he’s doing”

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"Stay away from people who make you feel like you are hard to love."

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I cant tell you how much I cried the first time I read this. 

I cant tell you how many people I’ve removed from my life because of this. 

I cant tell you how many people I know I should remove… but still cant.

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i thought i had a crush!! but it turned out to just be a 2 day long infatuation where i was actually just bored

i wish it wash so. ugh

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Here’s some fantastic news for your Friday: On Thursday, the California Senate unanimously approved a new bill that defines sexual consent as a firm “yes” rather than a lack of “no.”


This is a big win for anti-rape activists, many of whom have been touting the necessity of an “affirmative consent” standard for years. California Gov. Jerry Brown (D) has the next month to sign the bill into law. If he does, schools across the state would be required to define consent before engaging in sexual activity as an “affirmative, conscious, and voluntary agreement” or risk losing state financial aid funding.

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holy shit

look at this

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things i don’t own enough of
• lingerie
• candles
• make up
• other useless things that will get me nowhere in life but I want them

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